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Self-awareness page
- Want to improve self-regulation?
- Learn how your body works!
- Discover your feelings and emotions
- Helpful and limiting beliefs
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Attachment Styles page
- Breaking your insecure attachment?
- Attachment or separation anxiety
- Pleasing, over-performing, fleeing or numbing?
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Life choices page
- Discover what you really want?
- Aware of your lifestyle and life choices?
- The Power of Compassion ©
- Wihch therapy/coaching works for you?
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You want to break limiting patterns and find more & sustainable life happiness?
Then focus on 3 points
On this site you will find inspiration for personal growth within your triangle of "I, the other and it":
- know and grow your'self': optimize consciousness, break limiting patterns, embrace empowering beliefs & habits.
- optimize connecting: your inner connection and your connection with others. Consciously maintaining loving and empowering relationships.
- choose more consciously: your authentic life style & life goals.
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Take control of your steering wheel!
Are you living, or are you being lived? Something may happen, but do you consciously determine your thoughts and emotional or physical reaction?
Circumstances are out of your control, but how you experience and react to them are!
Are you able to take your body, emotions, beliefs, feelings, thinking, inspiration and inspiration (7Qi) into account when you make choices, make decisions or act? That's self-awareness (in action)!
Self-awareness in action has benefits!
- It promotes health, better relationships, greater inner satisfaction and a more meaningful life.
- Promotes self-regulation, and helps make informed decisions.
- You learn to show empathy with less projection, leading to deeper relationships and effective conflict resolution.
- And it stimulates your personal growth, and shaping your unique role in life.
Are your 7Qi out of balance?
Self-awareness begins with self-insight, and with recognizing your limiting patterns. The most common limiting patterns we encounter are:
- Insecure attachment (flight behavior & commitment anxiety, please behavior, over performing & separation anxiety or narcissistic behavior)
- Limiting thinking instead of empowering thinking
- Holding limiting beliefs such as norms, values and drives instead of empowering beliefs.
- Co-dependency (being focused on approval from others).
Do you recognize one or some of your challenge(s) in the image below? If so, now is the time to raise your self-awareness and break through things!
Attachment patterns & Relationships
Are you aware of your attachment style?
Your attachment style determines the way you relate to others. Secure attachment forms the basis for safe development and interaction with others in your life.
If you were not securely attached during your childhood (with your parents or caregivers), for example, this can cause attachment anxiety or separation anxiety and continually get in the way of finding or experiencing life's happiness with others.
Later in life, unpleasant experiences in relationships (with your partner or with colleagues or supervisors at work) can also influence your attachment pattern.
You develop unconsciously please behavior or over-perform with all its consequences. Or you withdraw or develop flight behavior or egocentrism. Ultimately this stands in the way of your happiness in life. So it is important to do something about it!
50% of us are insecure attached! Do you know your attachment style?
Breaking through insecure Attachment patterns
Scientific research confirms that insecure attachment is actually a form of developmental trauma; repressed emotions, stored in your body, that continue to influence you from your subconscious mind, causing you to fight, flee or freeze at times when you would rather not.
By becoming aware of your patterns and doing neuroplasticity exercises, you can already work on changing them!
But your attachment patterns have been active for a long time, and you may even have unconscious patterns or developmental trauma. Coaching AND combined Bodywork is then essential to be able to release this trauma so that you can safely relate to others again. You can read more about it on the new attachment patterns page!
Breaking unsafe attachment gives a huge boost to your personal growth! If you have the idea of being insecurely attached (e.g. you recognize separation anxiety in yourself) then breaking through your insecure attachment may be the greatest gift you can give yourself. It has a huge impact on your enjoyment of life and connection with everyone around you!
Do you have safe or toxic friendships?
Secure friendships are reciprocal. There is trust and loyalty. Emotional, mental or practical support when needed for a moment. And some shared interests. And above all: safety! Feeling safe and experiencing appreciation for who you are, what you do and what you feel.
Toxic friendships are friendships that cost you more energy than they provide and can even negatively impact your well-being. Instead of support, fun and trust, they bring (judgmental) judgments, complaining or denunciation, insecurity or even stress. Toxic friendships are usually best let go of. You can read more about them in this article on friendship.
Break through your unsafe attachment!
Find out how on the 7Qi Coaching page about attachment patterns!
Knowing what you want, can & are doing!
Are you truely making your own sound choices?
“I don't really know what I want” is something you hear a lot these days. “I just do whatever...”, or ”I just have choice stress. One or more “gap years” in your studies or a sabbatical and not yet knowing what you want. That means: too many possibilities and too little clarity. What you need is focus!
What do you want, what can you do and what are you actually doing? Map it out using the 7Qi manifestation matrix. You can read more about it in the article on personal leadership.That can already offer great insight!
Do you know the benefits of a love-based lifestyle? Read more about it in the article on fear or love based living.
The power of compassion!
Are you aware of how compassion benefits you?
Some people are much concerned with themselves and less concerned with others. That may provide more insight into yourself, or temporary pleasure but unfortunately no lasting life happiness!
In many self-help books you read about “makeable life happiness. About transforming yourself. That's a first step. But only a compassionate “we focus” really brings sustainable life happiness! (see the picture to the right).
Being compassionate is self awareness & sustainable life happiness booster no.1 !
Actively reaching out to others. Discover what you can do for others with your talents and skills. Listening attentively, and speaking to others with empathy and understanding about possibilities or change. That brings both you and another new insights! Growing together.
But its not only about helping or voluntairing. Compassion is also an important ingredient for a successful working life.
Discover what you can mean to others with your talents and what you enjoy doing. Make it your own business model, and you will work with passion every day! In a job or self-employed. Being truly connected with your clients and colleagues, and sustainable life happiness! A win-win! And the most driving factor for happy you, customers and flourishing business.
Read in this article why compassion is your booster no. 1 too !
The power of Neuro- plasticity!
What you think and how you think can (sub)consciously hinder you or even make you sick. But conversely, what you think can also make you better! And even without coaching or therapy, you can actively work on empowering beliefs and learn to release limiting beliefs.
Learn the power of neuroplasticity (actively changing your preferred thought pathways in your brain) and change your limiting beliefs, triggers and coping behaviors! Empowering and helping thinking can be learned! Curious how that works? Read more in the (temporarily) Free self-awareness course, and do the exercises!
Talking and doing together achieves more!
Working on your (limiting) beliefs also impacts your body, feelings and emotions and way of thinking. But a combination of talks and (body) exercises for your different Qi's usually has more and faster effect!
Read in this article how to break insecure attachment more effectively with body/mind combined therapy.
Or read in this article why with insecure attachment you are more susceptible to systemic diseases
(Pulmonary Covid, Lyme disease, Q fever, Auto immune diseases, Asthma, PDS (irritable bowel syndrome), Fibromyalgia, Chronic complaints (fatigue, sleep problems, migraines, overstimulation, & upset stomach).
The DMRS-method is a great on-line program! The SYRE-method is an integrative method for recovery. Combining Body-mind, detoxing & building new perspective.
Choose consciously
In the image below you will find different options for all Qi. Ask your life coach or therapist about his/her specific experiences, knowledge and skills.
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7Qi is a method for looking integratively at your challenges and living more confidently. Although the coaching practice is closed indefinitely, this site contains information and articles on topics that may be of use to you!
I wish you much success and especially love and joy on your life path!
